Saturday 17 April 2021

Not much to report

 Ten days have passed and in many ways I feel I have little to show for it.   The DBEM has required a lot of help with her knitting and there seemed to be scant time for me to pick up my needle.   Several days sheer frustration drove me out for long walks, only to return home to find yet more knitting repairs waiting for me.   At this stage I do not think I will be taking up knitting as a main hobby any time soon!

There really should be a support group for ‘carers of elderly parents’.  Sometimes we need a holiday or at least a break of more than a couple of hours at a time.  Nuff said:-)

Anyway, I have managed to complete half of the Kogin for the fifth bag and despite the foolishness of attempting this on 36 count linen I am rather pleased with the effect achieved.   My monthly stitching group friends were all very complimentary at our recent "show and tell" so I cam home inspired to speed up and complete this.   The next two bags will be Assisi embroidery I decided and I have a lovely grape coloured silk to use for those.  

And I successfully found a New Zealand embroiderer who can assist me with the Italian Deruta Sfilato.  I’m waiting on the mail to bring me some printed assistance and can then make more headway on that.

I have another hospital appointment on 30th April and hope to hear some more news then - meanwhile there are still limits on my driving and frustrations on every hand.   

So it's over and out tonight.   I have set the TV to record Prince Phillip's funeral and I'm off to bed soon.

17 comments:

Pamela said...

Your Kogin is gorgeous!

Wanda McColl said...

Margaret, I think of you and your mom so often. There should be a support program for caregivers and there definitely should be a service available where someone can come in for a few hours to provide you with some respite. I don't know your health care system but I would check to see if these services are available. It's great that you have your stitching and gardening and can get out for a walk. Take care of yourself.

Olde Dame Holly said...

It can be very lonely being a caregiver (I think they say carer in your area?) and worst of all, I have found, are those who chastise caregivers for being sad or frustrated or tired! I hope your pacemaker situation can be fixed soon, so that you can at least go forward without that weighing on your mind (and body).

Joan said...

Love your Kogin.
If you are on Facebook, there is a support group for Caregivers for Elderly Parents. I'm not a member as I'm the elderly parent, but.

Heritage Hall said...

O Margaret, your work is so lovely and I wish
you good luck on the Deruta Sfilato. Bless you for your patience in giving a helping hand to your DBEM. Hoping only good news at
your hospital appointment. In the interim,
please take care and be kind to yourself.
Those bags are beautifully worked.

Margaret said...

Thank you. I love the effect of this simple stitching but my next is planned for coarser linen.

Margaret said...

Thanks Wanda. I was feeling rather sorry for myself last night when I wrote that. Nice to know that my blog readers are caring though.

Margaret said...

Thanks. I think what I find hardest is the lack of support from siblings. But it is what it is.

Margaret said...

Thank you

Margaret said...

Today has been a better day - the sunny weather helped - and I plod on. I'm anxious to get the pacemaker problem sorted out.

Jo who can't think of a clever nickname said...

Sorry to hear it was a difficult day. Social services may be able to provide respite care but you probably have to be absolutely desperate to qualify. That's how it works here anyway.
Walks do help and getting out to a club must be great too.

Mylene said...

Hello from the Netherlands..been a while since i visited blogs and updating mine, trying to catch up when i can this days..
Thinking of you and take care always.

Your Kogin is coming along beautifully.

Leonore Winterer said...

I know in Germany, when you are caring for a relative, you qualify for some additional 'vacation' time in that you can get extra help (in house or at a nursing home) for about two weeks a year. Never used it, though. I do hope you find a way to get some relaxing you-time eventually!
Love your kogin project, it's very pretty.

Margaret said...

You're correct Jo and the authorities definition of desperate is not the same as mine :-)

Margaret said...

Thank you

Margaret said...

Hi Leonore, we have a similar type of system here for respite care but my problem is finding someone to stay with Mother. I'm currently investigating options.

Mary - Lecoeurceltique said...

Your Kohin is lovely. I look forward to seeing what you make in Italian Deruta Sfilato when you use the instructions you are waiting for.
I hope your appointment went well yesterday. Caring for elderly parents can be exhausting I trust that you will be able to find suitable options for you and your mother.